Wedding Traditions to Ditch (Part 1)

Traditionally, wedding planners are supposed to have a wealth of information relating to traditions, customs, and etiquette. While I have the information, I rarely share these unless I am asked specifically. The reason is because I see myself as the bride and groom's #1 supporter of them having the wedding they want.

This three part series outline some of the wedding traditions I think should be or can be ditched when you are getting hitched. They are entirely my opinions and you can take or disregard any of these because ultimately you should be planning the wedding you want. I hope this suggestions just help take some stress off of couples that feel they must follow all the traditions to a tee. (So, not true!)

~Monica Hui
Owner, Lead Planner and Designer
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Having the bride's family pay for the entire wedding.
Times and relationships have since changed and cultures are also very different in relation to this "tradition." Many couples are getting married a little later in their lives, have established careers, and savings. Most are paying for their weddings on their own and welcoming any contributions from family members. My suggestion is always to plan a wedding within your means and do not put yourself or your family members in debt over your wedding. While you may have a wonderful wedding, you don't want to be paying for it for years to come.


  A Brit & A Blonde 

Inviting people to your wedding because you were invited to theirs.
Invite the people you want to share this special day with. Others invited you to theirs because they wanted you there for a variety of reasons. Do not let this become a competition on whose wedding was better or inviting them just because. It is not worth it for anyone in the long run.


 Anna Lee Media

Accepting a position in a wedding party out of obligation.
If you are not comfortable being in the wedding party for whatever reason, you should either decline or ask for another role in the wedding. Being part of the wedding party is a huge honor. You don't want to waste this honor when your heart isn't in it or you might not do a stellar job. If you are open and honest with the bride with your reasons and still offer to help out, she might not be upset with you. Just make sure you tell her how important the day is and how you still want to be very much part of it, but in a different way.


 Lin and Jirsa Photography